Its 0340 hrs now and many things are coming to my mind. A few days back, I spoke with a friend of mine. Well, I call him my GURUDEV, cos he has helped me a lot in certain aspects (and now on certain personal matters also).I won’t mention his name publicly, but few close friends of mine might know this great person. The most dismal fact is that despite being extraordinarily bright and 100 times sincerer than me, is made to work, or rather say slog very badly, and this has effected his personal life and now is having a deep impact on his health also. It’s a new phase in our lives and we are not aware of how to tackle such kind of issues.
There is a famous theory proposed by Mr. Stephen R. Covey in his best seller: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It talks about the circle of influence and the circle of control. The circle of influence encompasses all those events which have an effect on your life, one way or the other, and the circle of control comprises of the issues on which you have a control on. To elucidate on this point, take an example of an earthquake or a natural calamity, it is in my circle of influence, as it has a direct/indirect impact on me but it is not in my control, whereas, my daily routine, my thoughts are in my control, so it falls in my circle of control. Naturally, the circle of control is a subset of my circle of influence.
So is this point pertinent in the current situation in which my dear friend is in? One can control things and make them happen rather than waiting for them to happen, if the circle of control is large enough. But how to make things come under your circle of control is a challenge, or how can you increase your circle of control? I find it extremely difficult to help my friend in this regard, but still there must be a way out. This simply does not apply to the situation in which GURUDEV is right now, but many personal issues which all of us are currently facing.
I keep on hearing these lines, around 5 times a day, from a song in the Rocky series:
“So many times, it happens too fast
You change your passion for glory
Don't lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive”
These lines befit any situation, well atleast they do in my case. You must fight, make things under your control, to realize the dreams of the past.
